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Earnest Echoes (articles revisited): I Am THAT Mom.

Earnest Echoes (articles revisited): I Am THAT Mom.

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*Originally published 07/30/2021. I am also human, and working on myself one step at a time.

As I prepare to write this, I earnestly feel gutted. Today, I was THAT mom. The mom that I have seen a million times; trying to keep it together as she can feel the entire façade of “everything is perfect” start to crumble and slip away. At first it was hard, but as I realized that I am human I was forced to give myself some grace.

Let’s set the stage for you. Thunderstorms kept us indoors. So movie and popcorn it is, until the popcorn maker got knocked over spilling popcorn every where and cracking the side panel. It was an accident, stay chill mama – accidents happen and its just a popcorn machine. Then children kept climbing the counter, literally I was taking children down from the countertops. Things started to calm until the hall closet upstairs was completely dissected from its contents while I was cleaning the popcorn machine. By then, the window to prepare dinner was closed, my oldest needed to go to karate and this mama was waving her white flag. It was enough.

My vehicle was parked across the street at my mother in laws and since my youngest two usually refuse pants and shoes, I needed to move the car to my driveway to save them from crossing the street shoeless (I have learned to pick my battles, shoes make it to the car in case they’re needed but I do not fight them on – in these cases I prefer peace to the fight). I called all three to the kitchen and said “get your shoes ready and stay RIGHT HERE, I am bring the car over.” They get busy putting their shoes on and I hot footed it across the street. All of the sudden, as I open the driver door there is my middle little. She startled me, then I realized she had ran across the street unassisted and that her 3 year old brother is likely right behind her. In my fear, my frustration I yelled at her. Ouch, it hurts my heart to even write that as I have been really working on my volume and tone with my children, but I was scared. Scared she could have been hurt, scared my youngest would soon be doing the same or is elsewhere outside completely unsupervised. I yelled, right at her “you scared me, and what about brother?! IS he safe?! I told you to stay in the house as I ran across the street!! Why didn’t you stay???” Ugh. We ran back to the house, and my oldest and youngest were standing right where I had asked them to stay only three minutes before.

Now I tell you, I have seen this mom around, so many times. Tired, worried, stressed, overwhelmed, scared, angry, frustrated, and yelling at her kid. Until this moment, I had always viewed the “yelling” mom as such a villain – and to all the moms I have judged before, I earnestly apologize. This is so HARD. Not that I condone yelling at children, however when I was scared, overwhelmed and worried for the safety of my children, that panic kicked in and naturally my voice elevated.

As soon as I saw all three of my children safe (my oldest is 11, so legally he can stay 3 minutes with his siblings as I drive up to get them, in case you are worried lol); I knelt down, cried and apologized instantly for yelling. I asked for my middle little’s forgiveness, I explained how scared I was but that yelling was not appropriate and I am working hard not to yell anymore. Then something surprising happened, she apologized for not listening and saw how scary that was for me. I was taken aback. I did not expect her to mirror my actions, to recognize and acknowledge her mistake and my feelings. It was messy, it was hard, but even in my mama-meltdown epic failure moments, these brilliant amazing little humans are still learning forgiveness, empathy and owning their own mistakes.

Yes, I am THAT mom. I am the mom that struggles with keeping my temper, sometimes doesn’t get food to the table on time (by the way we ordered in tonight), allows too much screen time, gives in to some demands to avoid the fight, and yells when I do not mean to. I am also THAT mom who forgives quickly, loves fully, asks for forgiveness and apologizes to show them I make mistakes too, and would protect my children at all costs. I cry in the bathroom, laugh at the dinner table and hug with everything I have got. I am 100% that mom and proud.

Remember mama, we are in this together – one Earnest MOM-ent at a time!

Love, Earnest Mom

An Earnest Summer: Keeping Homeschool, Light, Fun and Faith Filled.

An Earnest Summer: Keeping Homeschool, Light, Fun and Faith Filled.

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Because learning does not stop when the sun comes out. Free printables below.

When summer rolls in, many of us homeschool parents face the same obstacle. We long to keep our learning rhythms built throughout the school year. However, we also want the freedom and rest of summer. The good news? We do not have to choose between learning and rest, we can do both!

In our home, we follow a gentle yet simple, heart-led summer rhythm to keep learning alive but not overwhelm. Join me as I share how we will make a meaningful summer and avoid burn out. There are even FREE printables to help us get started. Cheer’s to a summer of love, learning and grace!

Summer does not mean an end to learning for the homeschool family. What we do is shift our approach to the summer months. We bring in more reading time – be sure to check out your local libraries for their FREE summer reading programs (Erie County Residents, here is ours). Copy work or scripture readings for each week, just once a week is easy as pie. Real world mathematics, whether through baking, grocery store visits or budgeting for a new bike – get them involved. Another fun idea is nature journaling – keep it easy, just a clipboard, paper and pencil. We can sit outside together and draw what we hear, or write words describing sounds, smells and textures. Let’s be creative and explore different spaces around our towns or cities. At the end of the summer, compare and choose all the favorite spots. Long drives? Listen to audiobooks or interesting podcasts. Choose some that relate to what we learned last year so there are familiar roots to build on. This heart-lead approach has a light touch while we build deep roots.

Summer time can be a time for delightful discovery. Instead of formal lesson plans, we can follow our children’s interests. Want to learn about birds? Let’s grab a birding book from the library, download a birding app and put out some bird feed! Sit in our own window and watch or head to a local park and see what we can see! Have a kiddo curious about baking? We can roll up our sleeves, pull out the flour and print some recipes to do together. Or maybe our child asking some big God questions. Grab a notebook and the bible. See what we can glean together. Summer gives freedom to be wonder-led, something that is easily carried into the coming school year too.

Be sure to make room for the extras in the summer. This is a special time that we can lean into things we may skip through the year. Say YES to handicrafts and creative play, bible memorization, music/nature studies, service projects. Choose more family traditions or vacation time. Consider spontaneous field trips. Let our kids choose something within a 1-hour drive away. Take the bus to the library and donate books we are not using. These extras can become the essence of learning being lead by the heart.

Finally, let’s remember that rest is not laziness, it’s sacred. Our families do not need to “keep up.” We need to take time to refresh, slow down and sit back a little. Let’s let summer be marked with slow, long mornings. Barefoot afternoons with books and tea. Popsicles on the porch and sliced watermelon in the lawn. What our kids will remember most will not be what they completed. They will remember how they feel, with us, right where they belong.

Mama, our summers do not have to be busy to be beautiful. Let’s allow this season to be one of connection, peace and gentle learning. Low in pressure, high in family time. Ask the Lord to guide our days, and trust He can do more with our small offerings than we could even imagine.

We are not just getting through, or surviving summer – we are planting seeds that will bear fruit for a lifetime. Remember mama, we are in this together, one Earnest MOMent at a time.

Love, Earnest Mom

Earnest Mom’s FREE Summer Printables – click to print:

Heart-led Summer Checklist

Summer Scripture Memory Cards

Navigating Parenting in a Digital Age: Earnest Action

Navigating Parenting in a Digital Age: Earnest Action

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This is the third article in the Navigating Parenting in a Digital Age. For reference, you can find the first one here, and the second here.

We have shared how we decided on cell phone use. We discussed our concerns about social media and mobile phones with children. We also talked about the Common Sense Media’s Summit on Kids and Family. Now, we are sharing what our next steps are. The action we are taking to hopefully see change.

In our home, where we safeguard, password, and pay for apps and these apps are meant to protect our children. Despite this, we still could not protect them. Recently, while watching Amazon Kids+ where we have it locked down, there was a glitch. A glitch that allowed them to click suggestions on what to watch next. We have our viewing ratings set to 7 and under, and a frightening adult show became accessible to them. Within seconds, I had scared children and Amazon on the phone trying to resolve this issue. Weeks later and we are still struggling with nightmares.

After attending the Common Sense Summit on Families and Children, we saw more staggering facts. They released The 2025 Common Sense Census: Media Use by Kids Zero to Eight, read their findings below.

Key findings from the report include:

  • By age 2, four in 10 children have their own tablet (40%).
  • By age 4, more than half (58%) of children have their own tablet.
  • By age 8, one in four children have their own cellphone.
  • Overall, 51% of children age 8 and younger have their own mobile device (tablet or cellphone).
  • About one in five children use mobile devices for emotional regulation, mealtimes, or to fall asleep.
  • Parent supervision varies significantly by platform, with 62% of parents watching YouTube occasionally alongside their children, but only 17% co-viewing TikTok content.
  • AI is making inroads into early childhood, with nearly one-third of parents reporting their child has used AI for school-related learning.
  • Children from lower-income households are spending nearly twice as much time with screens compared to those from higher-income households (3:48 vs. 1:52 minutes daily).

The research also highlights a concerning supervision gap in how parents monitor different platforms, and how their concerns about screen media affect viewing habits. Fewer parents are co-watching short-form video content, despite its rapid-fire and algorithm-driven nature. And while three-quarters of parents express concerns about screen media, including excessive use and effects on mental health, many also recognize potential benefits, with 75% excited about their children learning new things through digital media.

“Our youngest children are on the front lines of an unprecedented digital transformation,” said James P. Steyer, founder and CEO of Common Sense Media. “From AI to immersive gaming, they’re experiencing technologies that didn’t exist even a few years ago. It’s a lot to manage as a new parent, which is why we’re focused on giving families and educators the tools they need to harness the benefits of innovation while building healthy digital habits from the start.”

“Parents are sharing their concerns about the rapidly changing media landscape and how it affects their young children’s development,” said Jill Murphy, chief content officer with Common Sense Media. “While technology keeps evolving, what children need hasn’t changed. Parents can take practical steps: be actively involved in what your little ones are watching, choose content you can enjoy together, and connect screen time to real-world experiences, like acting out stories or discussing characters’ feelings. Set clear boundaries around device use, establish tech-free times for meals and bedtime, and remember that media should be just one of many tools for nurturing your child’s natural curiosity.”

Quoted from: Common Sense Census Press Release

Today, one only has to turn on the news to hear devastating stories of predatory behavior, bullying, and self harm. There are also stories of early pornography exposure and worse. All these events are happening to children, online. This is why we decided to write our lawmakers. They are in a position not only to make laws protecting and defending children online. They can also require more regulation from the companies. These companies are creating this tech and information. They are allowing it to be available, willy-nilly and our children are at risk.

As parents, we can do everything we can to keep up with the changing tech. We can have all the blocks, protections and apps to help us – and sadly it is still not enough.

My teen and I sat down and started writing. We wrote the president, vice president, our state governor and senators, our mayor and state representatives. We asked them, what they are doing to help protect children and teens online and on phones. Telling them, we need more protections and we need them now.

We earnestly urge you to do the same. Our leadership needs to hear from families who are concerned. They need to hear from those who have been affected. Tech is not slowing, and our most vulnerable are the most at risk.

You can find your State Legislators here. You can write letters and mail them (that is what we did) or some have their emails listed as well. Write your leadership and law makers today! Here is a template you can copy and paste to use a parent. Here is a template you can use for your child/children to write too.

Remember, we are in this together, and together we can make change – one EARNEST MOMent at a time.

Love, Earnest Mom