Autumn is a second Spring, where every leaf is a flower. – Albert Camus
Fall is hands down my favorite season. With school starting back up, the weather getting cooler (at least here in PA) and pumpkin spice everything is flooding us – let’s get out in the gorgeous Fall weather and make the time to connect with other moms. Find some moms that you can make your mom tribe with. I know that as a stay at home mom, my life becomes filled with conversations, arguments and humbling grocery store trips with toddlers; only to overwhelm my husband the minute he walks in the door because I am craving adult interaction.
Early on when we decided to keep me home to be with our children, I stayed home (or went to local kid things) and my focus was kids, kids, KIDS. Finally, last year I realized I needed to connect with other moms, other women in my community. I began to look for local moms groups and even tried to kick up my own little group. I did not have much success at all, but I knew that I could not sit at home and wait for my tribe to come and find me – I had to put myself out there, again.
Nobody enjoys being the “new” mom, or the one that no one knows, I know that being the newbie in the group is definitely my least favorite of places. As a mom though, I was craving connection, mom conversation and a group that I had life in common with. This is when I found my local MOPS group. I was so nervous, what if I do not fit in (like other groups I had tried), what if I did not feel welcome, what if the other moms did not like me, what if, what if, what if?! I had a whole list of ‘what ifs’ that could of just kept me home, kept me comfortable and kept me in my own little SAHM isolated bubble. I knew I needed more, I needed mom connections, I had to get free from my staying home routine.
So I did it, I stepped out on my own, walked into a giant church building filled with beautiful new and intimidating (only to me I am sure) faces and got out there. The first meeting I sat with a group of moms that were welcoming, chatty and kind. They were interested in me, my kids and why I wanted to join MOPS. I felt so welcomed that the quiet voice in my head that kept reminding me that I was a stranger among a bunch of new strangers slowly quieted and I kept going back. I found an awesome group of moms that I have connected with. I enjoy MOPS so much, I joined the leadership group and have the humbling privilege of planning, creating and making welcoming meetings for other moms new to the group of regular attendees. MOPS has changed my mom life, it has given me a comforting place to go twice and sometimes three times a month where I am getting more familiar with faces and names, and making deeper connections each time. Our MOPS group kicks off our first meeting of the season this coming week and I am so ready to get back to meeting with moms and growing my tribe.
So, if last Spring or the Spring before that you felt like maybe you were the leaf among the flowers of moms out there ( I know that I have felt that); let this Fall be your second Spring. Let this Fall be the season where you find your group of moms that have been saving that seat just for you. Sometimes, it is scary to just put ourselves out there but if we stay home and never get out there looking we may never find that perfect mom tribe that is out there looking for someone just like you or me! As women and as moms, together we are always better, we need that emotional, social and loving support that can only be found in fellow moms. Let this season be yours mamas!
x. earnest mom.
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